“After you are gone, people may forget most of what you have said & done. But they will remember that you loved them.” -Steve Goodier

February is often known as the month of “love”. I think it is really beautiful to celebrate love, both during this month as well as year round. It really does make the world go round, if it were not for LOVE, life would be bitterly devoid of color & vibrancy & emotion & basically all the things that make living worthwhile. I thought I’d share some ideas on how to love others well today, as we look beyond ourselves into the world around us. We ALL could use a little more love (& kindness & hope & joy) in our lives.
“Love is donating a chunk of your life to patch up holes in the life of another.” -Richelle E. Goodrich
- Smile at the people you pass by in the car, in the grocery store, in your neighborhood, in your workplace, with your own kiddos. MAKE EYE CONTACT & SMILE. Make it evident that you are intentionally choosing to acknowledge others & that they are worthy of that smile.
- Have a day of saying YES. I know that this might sound odd, but being a mama bear of a 3 year old & a 1 year old, saying YES is not nearly as frequent in my vocabulary as “no” is, sadly. There are definitely days where I feel as if “no” has been the only thing I have communicated with my girls, which is not the way I want to do this parenting thing. There is a time & place, yes, but saying yes is so much better. Just take one day & say YES to everything (within reason & safety, obviously), but push yourself to have a bit of freedom & fun for your littles & for yourself. Giving yourself a day of YES is also a good idea if you tend to deprive yourself (again, within reason) but allowing yourself to take a nap, or read an extra chapter of your favorite book, or eat some chocolate, or go on that hike you’ve been putting off, pulling out your art supplies while the dishes wait in the sink, or whatever, just allow yourself some freedom. Love yourself.
- Donate your time. VOLUNTEER at your local homeless shelter, food closet, high school fundraiser committee, wildlife organization, church nursery, etc. Babysit for free for a young family so the parents can go out on a date, sign up to drive for an elderly group home, go visit folks in group homes, pick up trash with a local community aid organization, etc. Do something. The options are endless.
- Bring your neighbor or someone who is ill a bouquet of flowers or some home baked bread. Get to know them & share your kindness with them.
- Read extra books to your little ones. Put your phone down, get down on the carpet & read until they are satisfied. Then act out the stories together. It will be a kick in the pants & that laughter will be SO worth it.
- Go support local artists. Go to their shows, invite your friends, have a great time, invest in your community & local talent.
- Skip a coffee a week & instead sponsor a child through a program like World Vision or Compassion International. Not only will it provide medical care, education & support for a child somewhere in the world who needs it, it will benefit yourself as you grow in your global outreach & understanding. It will be sweeter than that cup of coffee, for sure.
- Super simple, but essential for life: TELL THE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE THAT YOU LOVE THEM. Tell them verbally & SHOW IT. Be intentional, be honest. Be true.
“You can never be poor by giving & showing love to others.” -Kemi Sogunle

There have been times in my life where other people, whether stranger or friend, have shown kindness & loved me well. When I was doing my cancer treatment at Stanford, there were different people who came through the cancer ward & played the harp, guitar, taught painting classes, did group crafts, etc. We had a family make a home cooked Thanksgiving dinner & spend their Thanksgiving in the hospital with us, eating their turkey. I received countless hats, blankets, cards & well wishes. It was a season where I was loved well, by all of the people around me, stranger or friend. That is just one example from my own story where LOVING WELL was evident & SO needed. Even just recently, we have moved into our new home & it has been a season of chaos, exhaustion & stress but that has been alleviated a bit be some of the most beautiful souls we have had the privilege of knowing. They have come to our aid in the form of cookies, art, salt & pepper shakers, wine, cards of congrats, & groceries on our shelves in the pantry that I am still trying to figure out. You all know who you are, so THANK YOU. You, have loved our family well & we are grateful.
“Our joy in life is inexorably determined by the degree to which we love.” -Seth Adam Smith

A few weeks ago in our preschool routine, Eliana learned the “golden rule”. It is always a good reminder, so I thought I’d share it here as well. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” With that being said, it’s never a great idea (in my opinion) to ever do anything with the sole purpose of than receiving like treatment. If your heart is not in a giving place, simply to BE giving, with no strings attached, it has the potential to cause bitterness within yourself which is just not great. BUT- treating others with kindness, LOVING WELL, with open arms & a heart of joy is such a great foundational way to exist. It makes life more than existing, it moves it into THRIVING. I want to thrive, I don’t want to just exist. I want my life, my love, my response to the people around me to be of GOODNESS, to be noble, to be pure, to be praiseworthy. I want people to feel valued, seen, heard. I want to LOVE PEOPLE WELL.

Will you join me? Beyond just this season of the year where love is celebrated with chocolate, flowers & cards? Will you choose to make your life a celebration of LOVE everyday, being intentional to love the people around you? Will you not just choose love, but will you choose to LOVE WELL? To give of yourself & say YES? I hope you will. This is a rally cry for myself as well as others, so know that I am preaching to myself. I am simply choosing to share my heart’s desire to GO BEYOND myself & LOVE better. Let’s do it friends. I know we can.
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” -Lao Tzu
Cheers,
Katie.














































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