My Motherhood Currently

“Any mother could perform the jobs of several air-traffic controllers with ease.” -Lisa Alther

IMG_2716Let’s talk about the last few weeks. To get perspective, it is May. It’s the end of the school year, which is the “end” of the year in our household with both Noah & I working in education. He is currently camping & hiking with his 8th graders in Yosemite (epic!) for 3 days & nights & I’m home with the kiddos. Also epic. πŸ™‚ Anyhow, May is always crazy. We have basically run really hard with life in general since spring break back in March & we are doing our best to finish strong, keep our heads about water, not burn out. It’s a “take one day at a time” point in life & some days are “take one hour at a time”. Catch my drift? I know we’ve all been there. This is a predictable season for us, so we do our best to stay positive & keep our focus where it needs to be.

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*My anecdotes do include pee & poop, so if you are not a fan, skip this. But it is funny.

To be real honest, Cabo being on the horizon is helping quite a bit! We (JUST Noah & I) are headed there in June, so our countdown is on. It’s gonna be bomb guys. Laying in the sun, reading a book uninterrupted, sleeping the whole night, showering whenever I want, swimming without worrying about our littles & their floaties, riding jet skies, swimming in the ocean, eating piles and piles of guacamole, drinking ice cold drinks with an umbrella, taking a sunset cruise, staring deeply into each other’s eyes & on & on. DREAMS COME TRUE GUYS. This is the vacation we would LOVE to take every single year. We are going to celebrate life & our 9 year anniversary, because why just wait till our big 10th anniversary?! Every year is significant, vacation is necessary & we want to do it so we are. Boom.

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“People who say they sleep like a baby usually don’t have one.” -Leo J. Burke

Ok, so back to my motherhood currently. What my life has been like the last few weeks. It’s comical. That’s why I figured I’d write about it. Two days ago the day started with us eating breakfast quickly, making lunches & packing to drive down & go blueberry picking in the valley. I did this last year for the first time & it was awesome! It was super hot, but still awesome. Coming home with pounds of fresh blueberries for pennies on the dollar is just rad. Except the hot part. Anyway, I was running around trying to get everything finished so we could get in the car on time & while I was in the back room I heard Eliana (my 5 year old) yelling about Brother (11 months). I threw down what I was doing to discover he had crawled outside to where she was feeding our dog Gypsy & Sebastian was shoving handfuls of the dog food into his mouth. Eliana was holding him by the diaper, panicking and yelling for me. I scooped the food out of his mouth, got upset that she had forgotten to close the door in the first place & brought them back inside. I sat him down & brought her into the other room to explain that Sebastian is SUPER fast & that we all need to be more careful about closing doors… & immediately I heard him grabbing dishes out of the open dishwasher so I ran to the kitchen, closed that, returned to our conversation, then had to jump up again to close the bathroom door before he started eating the used tissues in the garbage. It was a perfect example to Eliana that it’s not her fault that Brother is so fast & we ALL have to be aware & careful to take care of him in this crazy fast super speedy crawling stage he’s in. Anyway, I explained that if that happened again, she needed to scoop the DOG FOOD out of his mouth first so he wouldn’t choke, then keep him away from it. Holding onto his diaper while he shoved loads of dog food into his mouth wasn’t a good way of taking care of the situation. I laughed later. We went blueberry picking & it was super hot, Sebastian didn’t dig it, but we got some berries & came home later then planned but happy.

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Yesterday, I had to drive 2 1/2 hours to Sacramento to pick up my mom from the airport. Back into the car we went. No dog food incidents. He decided to poop right when I buckled him in, so that was perfect timing. We got out a bit later then planned but no poop on the road so that was a win in my book. We got more than halfway there & all of us needed a pee break so we pulled into get donuts as a treat. Now, this is not a norm for us, so it was a true treat. I had us all squeeze into the small stall because the handicapped one was occupied so we could all take turns peeing. Have you ever done this? Doing it with an 11 month old makes it that much more interesting. Enough said. The girls each picked out a strawberry sprinkle donut, I got a plain glazed. We went to the car, got buckled up, I gave them each a bag with their donut to eat while I nursed Sebastian. They were content, I fed him then got him buckled into his carseat & we got back on the road. This stop made us late to get my mom, but she was super gracious. Another 10 minutes down the road I grabbed MY donut bag to eat from. It was a strawberry sprinkle donut. Cora had eaten my entire donut without saying anything. I don’t think she even realized. Strawberry sprinkle donuts are not my jam. Give me my plain glazed old fashioned man. So that was nice. I didn’t eat her donut. We picked up my mom, stopped at Fairytale Town in Sacramento for a bit to play, which was really fun & headed back home. About 30 miles from home, Sebastian had had enough. He wailed until we found a good place to pull over, Eliana had to pee on our portable potty, I fed him & changed him & he was good to go again. We finally made it home & it was great.

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“You can be a mess and still be a good mom. We are allowed to be both.” -@katiebinghamsmith

A few weeks back, in the matter of 5 minutes, Sebastian was scooping handfuls of dirt out of one of my houseplants & eating said dirt silently until we discovered him. From there, he crawled into the bathroom, where the lid had been left up & was enjoying himself splashing in the toilet water. Once discovered again & moved, he proceeded to crawl all the way into our bedroom, where we found him again, sucking and chewing on a charging cord plugged into the wall. All in 5 minutes. OH the joys.

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“Cleaning your house while the kids are still growing is like shoveling the sidewalk before it stops snowing.” -Phyllis Diller

Last week, Sebastian pooped. Like REALLY pooped. My day started off with Cora, our almost 3 year old (who never pees the bed), waking up in a puddle of pee. On her pillow. She is the craziest sleeper. All of her bedding needed to be washed so that’s what I started with. Not that long after that was when he pooped. This is normal guys. I brought him up to his room to change him, the girls followed & wanted to be with us. I took off his diaper, he grabbed some poop, I moved his hand out the way. He then grabbed a toy with said hand. I removed the toy. Said hand went to mouth. I removed said hand. I moved the diaper, after his feet ended up in the poop too. I asked Eliana to throw it in the trash for me so as to avoid anyone else stepping/touching it. She threw it away & in the process got poop on her hands. I sent her to the bathroom to wash them. I managed to get him clean, the changing table clean, his face, feet, hands & toy clean. All while this was happening, Cora had gotten her stool out the bathroom to have a better vantage point of all of this & was playing with the dimmer switch on the light switch, up & down. Up & down. All while I was changing this poopy diaper. It was a glorious experience. Oh & I totally had poop all over my hands too. Cora didn’t. She was left unscathed. Minus my scolding eyes while she enjoyed her handcrafted light show & I couldn’t see what I was doing.

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“Every day when you’re raising kids, you feel like you could cry or crack up and scream ‘This is ridiculous!’ because there’s so much nonsense, whether it’s what their saying to you or the fact that there’s avocado or poop on every surface.” -Kristen Bell

So that’s my life. Currently. I need to be clear though, you guys, I wouldn’t have this any other way. I am SO blessed. I LOVE where I am at in this motherhood thing. I love that I have the gift of 3 littles here earth side with me that I get to play with, nurture, teach, enjoy, laugh with, snuggle with, adventure with. This rocks. It is so hard, at least once a day there is something “hard”, I am exhausted, yes, I have to deal with poop & lots of laundry & all sorts of runny noses, etc., yes, but I am SO HAPPY. Even in MAY! Even in this insane season of life. I AM SO HAPPY. Getting to be home with my kiddos, getting to take them blueberry picking & hiking on the weekends while traversing bumpy roads in our minivan & leaving some of our bumper there on the way all in the name of adventure to celebrate motherhood & to pick wildflowers, this guys! THIS. It’s all so worth it. It’s amazing. AND there is Cabo. πŸ™‚

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Ok, there are definitely more anecdotes I could share, because motherhood/parenthood is full of them, but for now I’ll be done. I’m sure something else absolutely hilarious while happen as this day progresses. It keeps me on my toes.

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“Raising a kid is part joy and part guerilla warfare.” -Ed Asner

So cheers to you, other mamas & papas out there! Cheers to you, I applaud all of your hard work that is mostly left unseen, I applaud your tenacity to parent your children well, to wipe those bottoms clean & give the best hugs to your littles that you can. I applaud you choosing to press on, even when you are in insane seasons of life, to keep your head up & your focus where it needs to be. You are not alone friend! You’ve got this mama. You’ve got this dada. It’s all about the little things, showing love in all the things we do. Let’s do it well. And hey, happy late Mother’s Day & early Father’s Day to all of you lovely people too.

 

Cheers,

Katie.

 

Black History Month

“The time is always right to do what is right.” -Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

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The month of February is set aside to educate us all about black history. We personally utilize this time (along with every other month of the year) to further our understanding as a family of the beauty, sadness & depth of the layers of what has been called “black history”. This is not something we shy away from, it is a daily part of our vocabulary & culture. This is something, in my opinion, that is VITAL for us all to engage with & expand our understanding in. If we truly desire the world to be a better place, let’s start with ourselves. Let us be teachable, practice humility & grow ever more in our knowledge of the world around us & the history that has made it the way it is today.

“History, despite its wrenching pain cannot be unlived – but if faced with courage need not be lived again.” -Maya Angelo

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Here are some simple ways to do this:

  1. READ.
    • Here are some good books if you need a place to start both for adults & kiddos:
  2. WATCH.
    • Find a documentary on Netflix, Amazon, Hulu, etc.
    • Watch a film.
  3. LISTEN.
    • There are podcasts, speeches, music. Listen & be educated.

“You must never be fearful about what you are doing when it is right.” -Rosa Parks

“We need to talk about liberating minds as well as liberating society.” -Angela Davis

“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” -Barack Obama

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We live in a world with practically everything within our reach to gain knowledge & understanding through the use of the internet, etc. There are free resources everywhere as well if you are not able to stream documentaries or purchase books. Check out your local library, thrift stores, used book stores, ask friends. We can do this. I know that for the rest of my life I desire to be a LEARNER. I want to deepen my understanding of the world around me so that I can be a better person for the world around me. For myself, for my children, for my grandchildren. For my neighbors & friends. For the people I connect with through social media & in this digital world. For the Kingdom of Christ. For so so many reasons. Knowledge is freedom, knowledge is power, knowledge can grow compassion & understanding. It is so valuable. Take some time today to enrich your life. This is a call to action for myself as well. It’s worth it. So worth it.

“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” -Nelson Mandela

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Cheers,

Katie.

Merriest Christmas & Happiest New Year from the Jenks Tribe

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The time has come once again, to celebrate as we reflect on this year of 2017 & look ahead with bright eyes towards this next year of 2018. It has been such a BEAUTIFUL year! We are so grateful for all that our little tribe has gotten to experience as we have grown & continued to watch the glorious King of Heaven bring light & life to all around us. We hope that you have also tasted beauty & embraced happiness as you have journeyed through your year!

The beginning of our year brought us snow & rain, & therefore lots of bundling up & playing outside along with tea drinking & book reading inside. It also brought us lots of time with family. One wonderful thing that the winter season brings is more time together inside playing & snuggling. We are big fans. Noah & Katie’s dad finished up our incredible fixer-upper home remodel, & on February 1st, we moved into our NEW HOME! It is gorgeous, you guys. A dream come true for our family! Noah has continued to lead worship at our church once a month & our family worship nights are a regular part of our evening routines. On March 15th, Katie was declared 5 YEARS CANCER FREE! We have been doing a happy dance for 5 plus years & we are nowhere near stopping! On March 29th, Eliana Marie turned 4! We celebrated with family & friends at a park, she got a giant balloon & requested chocolate cupcakes with strawberries so that’s just what we had. It was simple & perfect.

The spring brought us more rain & exploring, we enjoyed frequenting parks (swing are Cora’s favorite), visiting local trails for hikes, playing in local places like Columbia & our favorite, Pinecrest, & enjoying daily walks in our amazing neighborhood. Katie continued to make our Jenks Abode into a haven for our family with baby numero 3 on the way & Noah coached spring track. The girls played outside in our backyard & did lots of painting & crafts. We played music together as a family each night (usually including at least one rendition of Old McDonald prior to worship) & took the girls blueberry picking. On May 30th, Cora Kinsey turned 2! We celebrated with our family & some close friends at our home with a moon & star theme because Cora loves the sky! It was a sweet time. We also were able to visit with Eliana’s birth family & had the honor & joy of meeting her biological grandma for the first time! We love adoption, it such a beautiful thing.

June brought us the end of the school year for Noah with his 7th & 8th graders as well as the end of our first year of preschool with the girls. It also brought us one of the best gifts in the whole world. On June 20th at 2:16pm, SEBASTIAN WILLIAM JENKS was born! He weighed 8lbs .09oz & stretched out at 20in long. He came earth side after being flipped the right direction 5 times, multiple bellybands & being induced. It was an intense 22 hour labor & a natural delivery, bringing us our first SON! We are so grateful he is a part of our family! The remainder of the summer called for rest for our little tribe along with trips to Santa Cruz, Oregon & of course lots of time up at our family cabin in Pinecrest.

The fall has brought us more time settling in as a family of 5, Katie started her second year of homeschool with the girls & has continued to sub at the high school & Noah began his 5TH YEAR of teaching! Woot Woot! We have taken trips to Texas, San Diego, Monterey & surprised the girls with a visit to Disneyland. As the days have gotten progressively colder, we have enjoyed daily fires in our wood stove, walks to collect the beautiful fall leaves around our neighborhood & enjoyed baking together in the kitchen. By the time you read this letter, our children will be 4 Β½, 2 Β½, and almost 6 months old! We are absolutely smitten with them & the way our life is FULL of snuggles & our house is covered in books, princess dresses, collections of rocks, & pinecones. We are blessed beyond measure with a roof over our heads, food on our table, jobs that we love, children that we adore, & a God who loves us relentlessly, even when we don’t deserve it. Day in & day out we sing praises for the beautiful life we have been given, with all of its ups & downs because He is worthy of it all! We are so grateful that HE IS GOOD & has given us the ability & privilege to love people well, to BE KIND, & to bring light & life to those around us.

With that, CHEERS to you & yours! We are so thankful for you & the role you play in our life, whether it is near or far. May you find more reasons to REJOICE this Christmas season than you can count, so that you can continue with your thanks all year long. May your heart be light & your home cozy. May you be surrounded with people that you love & may you love others well. Be kind. Love well. Bring life. We’ve got this! Lets bring light to this world during this holiday season & all year long. May your 2018 be sweet & full of ABUNDANT JOY. We love you. Happy Christmas!

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Love,

Noah, Katie, Eliana, Cora & Sebastian Jenks

Peaceful Preschool

“All children start their school careers with sparkling imaginations, fertile minds, & a willingness to take risks with what they think.” -Ken Robinson

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I wanted to share about how our homeschool journey is going. This is my second year using the same curriculum & I love it just as much this second time through as I did the first time! If you are interested in finding out more, check outΒ thepeacefulpreschool.comΒ 

“There is no school equal to a decent home & no teacher equal to a virtuous parent.” -Mahatma Gandhi

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Here we are in my favorite month of the year- OCTOBER! Hooray! Fall is my favorite season & this is my favorite month. I love the weather & the way the trees change color, I love getting to go on walks with my family & all the leaves that get collected by my littles (& myself!). I love baking again after not really wanting to during the hot summer months, drinking tea, having the windows open, getting to wear slippers & cuddle up under a blanket, decorating with pumpkins & the scent of cinnamon in the air, going for hikes further up the hill to see the colors & getting to finally put my little squish in cute sweaters & hats. Oh & I am very much looking forward to getting back into knitting again. It’s a good month man. I love it. I also love it because with school, we have fully gotten into a rhythm, which is a really great feeling. Especially with the added juggle of a wee one thrown into the mix of everything. But we’ve figured it out! So let me share what it has been like thus far.

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We usually have a slow(ish) morning that includes getting Brother fed, myself & the girls fed, dressed, breakfast cleaned up, I pump, we get our dance party on with some worship, open up the windows & get the day going. After that, we head up the stairs, into the school room & then we begin.

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Our school day varies day by day, but the focus remains on the same areas of development. We also add a verse for the week that we work on each day with memorization & by the end of the week the girls are rewarded with a chocolate for all of their hard work. It’s a beautiful thing for myself as well, filling our hearts & minds with the living breathing Word of God is SO GOOD.

For example, last week we worked on the letter G & our verse was: “Good & upright is the Lord.” -Psalms 25:8

Besides our weekly verse, our days always include the following:

-Read Aloud

-Phonics

-Counting Skills

-Fine Motor Skills

-Large Motor Skills

-Practical Life Skills

-Art Skills

LOTS of skills to pay the bills. πŸ™‚ Just kidding. But really, I LOVE the way this breaks down each day into focused development in so many areas. I think this is an excellent tool to also stretch myself (as a teacher) out of my comfort zone to remember that ALL areas of development are important especially in this age group (the first 5 years of life).

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“America’s future will be determined by the home & the school. The child becomes largely what he is taught; hence we must watch what we teach, & how we live.” -Jane Addams

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We also usually start the day with “Circle Time” around our school table where we start with several books that reinforce the letter of the week that we are working on. I love books, so we usually have a handful that work right into the curriculum that we pull off of our shelves at home, as well as using the books we get at the library. When we aren’t able to get the books that our curriculum specifically calls for, we can usually find them on YouTube. After reading, we move to phonics, counting, etc. We are usually able to get through the majority of our daily activities by the time Brother wakes up from his morning nap, & if not he enjoys “joining” us. Sometimes I have to improvise & we pull out the playdough or play money to occupy little hands & spark some imaginative play while I feed Sebastian. After that we end with our art time. Some days I follow the curriculum’s suggested art activity specifically & some other days call for a bit more freedom. Eliana LOVES watercolor, so some days I just let her have at it. Cora loves our paint sticks, which is my ABSOLUTE FAVORITE art medium this year. It has become my go-to gift for kiddos of any age because they are the easiest things to use & they don’t.make.a.mess. HALLE! We buy Kwik Stix off of Amazon.com. They are amazing! After art, we usually read more books, play with their kitchen or have free play with puzzles to fill the time until lunch. If it is nice outside we DEFINITELY use that time for getting some energy out with riding bikes, drawing with chalk, taking a walk around the neighborhood, etc. Outside time is good for us all. I’m so grateful we have a swing I can sit on with Sebastian while the girls have their free time. (Thanks Mom & Dad!)Β That usually concludes our “school day”. Some days after naps we will bake or cook together to continue with school, but that is not everyday. Fridays we try to take a field trip that coordinates with subjects we have studied throughout the course of the week, or we make that our library day. Sometimes it is just our day to drive up the hill & explore outside. Or, we call them fun Fridays & we stay in our jammies until lunchtime & bake in the morning. Each week is different, it all just depends on what we need the most that day.

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There you are! That is a brief overview of how our preschool days look with a 4 1/2 year old & almost 2 1/2 year old. It has been a joy! I have loved it & it has been so rewarding watching the growth that has occurred because of using the Peaceful Preschool curriculum. This is the second year we have done it & both Eliana & now Cora are learning & retaining SO much! I learn right along with them & continue to grow in my understanding of what makes them come alive as we learn. It has also taught me the necessity of play & imagination. Our word for this school year is PLAY! I can get too caught up in academics sometimes because I love education. Throughout this year & the years to come I am determined to value & make space for playing, even more so than academics because it is so VITAL for their development & growth! It is stretching for me to find balance but I can honestly say that I am loving it! I never want to stifle my children on this journey of homeschooling. I want to love it & I want them to love it. Playing all day long is good first step, especially in these early years.

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I’m sure I will share more as this year goes on about our time in the school room & beyond, but for now, this gives you a good idea of what we are doing. If you have any questions, please let me know! I am still learning about this myself, but I would love to encourage you if you need it!

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This has been & will be, a GREAT school year.

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“A system of education is not one thing, nor does it have a single definite object, nor is it a mere matter of schools. Education is that whole system of human training within & without the school house walls, which molds & develops men.” -W. E. B. Du Bois

Cheers,

Katie.

 

Faithfulness

“We are not here to be successful, we are here to be faithful.” -Mother Teresa

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This has been a theme in my life, especially in my married life. I feel like it consistently comes up in conversations between Noah & I as we think about how our life has been, how it is right now & it comforts us with our future. His faithfulness in our lives is etched in like a marble memorial. It is set in stone, never changing. Without Jesus, we would be a hot mess. Don’t get me wrong, I am a hot mess all on my own some days, but boy… I would be SO much worse without Jesus. Noah & I both would be. In our marriage, these last 8 1/2 years, faithfulness has carried us, washed over us & sealed us with a grounded foundation knowing that we WILL make it. That we are taken care of. Day in, day out, with whatever life throws at us, we know His faithfulness is never failing.

Here’s a laundry list of faithfulness in our life:

-Traveling the world

-Asking for specific jobs & getting them every time

-Asking for specific cars & getting them every time

-Buying our first home

-Being healed from cancer

-Adopting Eliana & having a beautiful relationship with her birth family

-Being able to get pregnant even after cancer treatments

-Traveling to Europe

-Giving birth to Cora

-Selling our first home for more than double

-Buying our second home in our desired neighborhood

-Traveling with our kiddos & my parents internationally

-Giving birth to Sebastian

-Continued health for each member of our tribe

-Food on our table

-Time together as a family every summer & at holidays (Thank you for being a teacher Noah!)

I could go on & on. I actually keep a list in my phone of things that I am grateful for, so inΒ  a moment when my heart squeezes with gratitude I can write it down to remember. All of those things remind me of His faithfulness & how blessed I am. It’s a wonderful thing to acknowledge the fact that being alive is a gift & that it is FULL of GOOD things. I am so grateful!

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The definition of faithfulness according to the dictionary is as follows: the quality of being faithful; fidelity. As much as I can go on forever about the faithfulness of our God, in the same breath it is a theme for myself as well. I want to have the QUALITY of being faithful, I want to be that way for myself & the people around me. I want to treat ALL of the things that I participate in with faithfulness. I want to do my job as a parent, as a spouse, as a teacher, as a reader, as an athlete, as a cook, as a traveler, as an artist, as a researcher, as a homeowner, as a human being, etc., – faithfully. I want to be faithful in all of those things & more. I want faithfulness to MARK my life. I want to be known by it.

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On days when I am worn out (which is a lot lately due to a 3 month old who isn’t sleeping through the night yet), I know that it is beneficial for my spirit to be renewed by the beauty that finds its way into each & every nook & cranny of my life. Part of the way that I do that is to reflect on His faithfulness & how it carries me. It also draws me into a deeper desire to exemplify that for those around me- for my husband, for my kiddos, for myself. I want to be faithful. I want to say something & follow through. I want to manifest faithfulness in a tangible way for my littles, so they know that they are carried in our family as well as carried by our beautiful King. I want them to grow up & have faithfulness be a theme of their lives.

“Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.” -Mother Teresa

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It’s a great thing having it be a testament in my own life, in my story. I can’t edit it out without LITERALLY changing the outcome of where we are now. If it weren’t for His faithfulness, I would not be here today, I am confident of that. So faithfulness brings me hope, brings me peace, & pushes me to reach higher, go deeper, be better. Because I know. I know that I know that I know that He is faithful & always will be. And because He has already won, I win. It’s awesome.

“Kindness & faithfulness keep a king safe, through kindness his throne is made secure.” -King Solomon

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So I’m speaking to myself- today, as I sit here feeling a bit worn out, I will take some deep restorative breaths & reflect. I will look at today & know that it has already been taken care of & that whatever comes tomorrow or the next day will be fine because He already knows & his faithfulness abounds. His grace is sufficient in my weakness & I will rejoice evermore in my partnership with Him. I am grateful & I will CHOOSE to be faithful.

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“Faithfulness lives where love is stronger than instinct.” -Paul Carvel

P.S. All these photos are from a family (my mom + my sister + her 3 girls + me + my 3 kiddos) field trip we took to Columbia State Park earlier this week. πŸ™‚

 

Cheers,

Katie.